I'm not gonna live by what I feel

Nobody is successful in any venture just by wishing they would be. Successful people make a plan and talk to themselves about that plan constantly. You can think things on purpose, and if you make what you think about match what you actually want to do, your feelings may not like it, but they will go along. I slept great last night, and when I woke up at 5:00 a.m., I didn’t feel like getting up. It was so cozy under the fluffy cover, and I felt like staying right there. But I had a plan. I had decided how many hours I would write today, and in order to do that I had to get up. I thought, I am going to get up now , and I got up! Do you make an effort to choose your thoughts, or do you just meditate on whatever falls into your head, even if it is in total disagreement with what you have said you want out of life?

I want to encourage you today—the good news is you can change. As I have said for years, we are in a war and the mind is the battlefield. We either win or lose our battles based on winning or losing the war in our minds. Learn to think according to the Word of God, and your emotions will start lining up with your thoughts. If you have had years of experiencing wrong thinking and letting your emotions lead you as I did, making the change may not be easy, and it will definitely require a commitment of study, time, and effort. But the results will be worth it. Don’t say, “I am just an emotional person, and I can’t help the way I feel.” Take control. You can do it!

It is what it is!

I have adopted a new phrase lately, and it is helping me to deal with reality and not waste my time being upset about things I cannot do anything about. I have been saying, “It is what it is!” Somehow, that is a reality check for me, and I quickly realize I need to deal with things the way they are, not the way I wish they were.

Nobody has a perfect life, and it is entirely possible that if you want someone else’s life, they are busy wanting someone else’s, too; perhaps they even want your life. Unknown people want to be movie stars, and movie stars want privacy. The regular employee wants to be the boss, and the boss wishes he did not have so much responsibility. A single woman wants to be married, and sometimes a married woman wishes she were single. Contentment with life is not a feeling, but it is a decision we must make. Contentment does not mean that we never want to see change or improvement, but it does mean we can be happy where we are and will do the best we can with what we have.
It also means we will maintain an attitude that allows us to enjoy the gift of life. Trust in Him

If God wants you to have what someone else has, you can trust Him to bring it to you, but first you must be happy with what you have and do the best you can with it.

THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS

In the darkness, dark and no light that what she felt when the one she loved told her how hurt it’s was when she told him about what she have said in her heart about him.

Sunday night, she came to meet him and would like to encourage him and while they are talking all day until night, she release it that she did a mistake she said sorry by then. By Tuesday she got a text from him, which he heartbroken by her words. She tried to explain and she would like to apologize and she want to change. And now she felt the same, “heartbroken.” She tried to say sorry and tried to talk with him and tried to explain about it however that all same like nothing.  She call but he not answer, she text but no reply but by the time he finally text her back even with short reply. She is very happy because he reply, “finally after few days” she said to herself.

Now let we see what we can learn from that story.

Sometime someone upset us and we are get upset too and sometime angry about that, Suddenly don’t want to talk with them anymore because they hurts our feeling a lot.

But this is what we can learn from that story: It is to forgive! If you forgive them you will set yourself free and set that person free. We don’t know maybe they did not mean to say that and they don’t know that might be hurt. Communication is the best way to talk about that with that person.

If you forgive same like you set yourself free and other free. And also we learn to think firs before we talk and make sure that will not hurt anyone. Lets our words encourage others.

If you forgive you will get less ilness and no stress.

Much love and blessing.

Natalya Wilsan.

 

 

Love God and Love People

Last time, i asked God...

"God, Why peoples so rude and they are mean some time."

Yes, lot of things happening in my life. When peoples doing rude to me, with their words and acts. Very painful and hurts me. At work, at University, organisations, and when some one you love hurts you. When you need them, they leaved you!

I remember that time, i was looked at above the sky and God remind me..

"That's was happened to ME too. I love My peoples but they rejected Me. But I still loving them! Remember when i was hanged on the cross." 

~YOU MUST LOVING THEM~

Kesendirian Tidak Selalu Mematikan!
Ditulis Oleh: Anne Ahira

Teman-teman, banyak orang yang tidak menyukai kesendirian,
karena waktu yang dilewati terasa lebih panjang dan
melelahkan.

'Sendiri oh sendiri'... Ternyata hal remeh ini bisa
menjadi masalah besar bagi sebagian orang!

Apakah teman-teman termasuk yang demikian? :-)

Memang, kesendirian seringkali diidentikkan dengan hal
yang menakutkan, mengesalkan, bahkan menjadi simbol
kesedihan. Namun, jika kita mau membuka pikiran,
sebenarnya kesendirian itu tidak selalu mematikan!

Kesendirian bisa memiliki dua makna...

Pertama, kesendirian menyangkut fisik yang sebenarnya,
tanpa ada orang di sekitarnya. Kedua, hanya berbentuk
perasaan saja.

Bisa jadi seseorang berada di tengah keramaian, namun
merasakan kesunyian. Mungkin teman-teman pernah mengalami
hal serupa, terutama ketika menemui masalah dengan
rekan kerja, sahabat, keluarga, atau pacar? :-) dan lain
sebagainya..!

Satu hal yang perlu teman-teman ingat, kesendirian dengan arti
apapun sebenarnya bukan masalah jika kita mampu
mengelolanya dengan baik, atas perasaan, sikap dan
segala situasinya.

Bagaimana kita bisa mengelola kesendirian supaya lebih
bermakna? Lakukan hal berikut :

1. Cari kesibukan dengan melakukan aktivitas positif
yang sangat teman-teman sukai, misalnya dengan membaca,
menulis, olahraga, menyanyi? :-) Apapun kesukaan
teman-teman. Dengan cara ini, kesendirian akan terasa lebih
menyenangkan!

2. Kedua, ingat-ingat kembali hal-hal yang menjadi
impian teman-teman dan belum sempat dilakukan. Teman-teman bisa
membuka agenda-agenda pribadi, foto-foto jaman
dulu, buku-buku, dan lain sebagainya.

Percaya, cara ini akan menyadarkan teman-teman akan
sempitnya waktu untuk mewujudkan segalanya.
Kalau sudah begini, bukankah kesendirian itu jadi
menyenangkan? ;-)

3. Ketiga, buat daftar sebanyak-banyaknya tentang
keinginan yang ingin teman-teman wujudkan selagi masih
hidup. Mungkin dengan cara menuliskan kembali
'keinginan gila' saat teman-teman masih kecil? Atau mimpi-
mimpi lain yang belum terlaksanakan?

Saat itu teman-teman akan sadar, ternyata banyak sekali
hal yg memerlukan kesendirian utk mewujudkannya!

4. Dan yang terakhir.... Sebenarnya ini merupakan hal
*utama* dan yang pertama yang harus teman-teman lakukan...
Mendekatlah kepada Yang Maha Mencinta diri teman-teman.
Kesendirian ini akan semakin menyadarkan hakekat
keberadaan teman-teman di dunia.

Semakin keyakinan ini kuat, maka akan semakin
kokoh kemampuan teman-teman mengarungi kehidupan,
dengan segala situasinya.

Intinya, jangan biarkan teman-teman terjebak dalam kesendirian
dengan suasana 'hati yang negatif', membiarkannya
berlarut-larut, hingga membuat teman-teman putus asa.

Kalau teman-teman mau membuka mata, kita sebenarnya tidak
pernah benar-benar sendiri. Ada orang lain di sekitar
kita.

Yang jelas, pasti selalu ada orang yang bisa teman-teman
jadikan teman, dan ajak bicara!

Jika teman-teman mau terbuka, dalam kesendirian teman-teman bisa
merenungkan banyak hal. Dalam kesendirian teman-teman bisa
menemukan kedewasaan, kebijaksanaan, ide brilian,
dan memaksimalkan potensi yang teman-teman miliki.

Dalam kesendirian pula teman-teman bisa mengungkap
kejujuran, yang bisa jadi terkalahkan oleh sombong dan
ego yang seringkali teman-teman temukan di keramaian!

Tidak bisa dipungkiri, kesendirian bisa datang kapan
saja kepada setiap orang, termasuk kepada teman-teman.

Nah, jika suatu saat atau bahkan saat ini teman-teman sedang
dilanda 'kesepian' alias merasa 'sunyi sepi sendiri',
Teman-temanharus ingat, bahwa kesendirian tidak selamanya
mematikan!

Kelola-lah perasaan teman-teman dengan baik, dan buatlah
kesendirian menjadi lebih bermakna. :-)

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PLANNING SKILL

Pengertian Planning Skill

Planning skill merupakan kemampuan untuk memprediksi, mengukur, menyusun, mengantisipasi, dan mengelola masa depan. Awal dalam melakukan planning skill adalah melakukan program dan perkembangan yaitu aktivitas-aktivitas yang dibuat untuk menjangkau planning dari siswa sehingga mencapai sasaran dan tujuan, target yang dicapai.

Fungsi Karangka Kerja dari Planning Skill

a. Perencanaan menghasilkan 12 manfaat
Pemikiran strategis, cara berpikir antisipasif, keunggulan dalam persaingan, batas otoritas, sasaran yang jelas, tindakan efektif, efesiensi biaya, pemaksimalan sumber daya, mengurangi kegagalan, mengakomodasi control, mengatasi konflik, pemilihan darurat.

b. Jenis perencanaan
Perkiraan, anggaran, pembiayaan, nilai taksiran, visi dan cita-cita, nilai pertumbuhan.

c. 3 area besar perencanaan

Tugas + Manu +Benda

Situasi Sumber daya Manuasi Peralatan

d. Perencanaan utama dan pelaksanaan

Proses – Metode, Tujuan – Hasil, Jadwal – Durasi Waktu, Pertanggungjawaban – Validasi, Tanggung jawab – Aktivitas.

e. Kriteria Perencanaan SMART
S-Specific (Spesifik), M-Measurable (Terukur), A-Attainable (Bisa dicapai), R-Reasonable (Beralasan), T-Time frame (Kerangka Waktu).

f. Proses Perencanaan
Mengidentifikasi, mengukur, mengelompokkan, menghubungkan, mengkonfirmasikan, menggabungkan, menghitung, mengestimasi, menganalisa, mengawasi, mengantisipasi, mengevaluasi, menyimpulkan, memulihkan, memvalidasi, dan lain-lain.

Penilaian Hasil Latihan Keahlian

Aplikasi Praktis
- Rencanakan masa depanmu – Pilihan
- Susun sasaranmu
- Mulai dengan hal kecil
- Menetapkan langkah awal
- Lakukan saja!

ADVICE

Jadilah ahli sebagai seorang perencana.
a. Rencanakan target tahunan Anda dengan perencanaan SMART mengikuti 5 langkah dari latihan terbaik.
b. Bagilah rencana anda dalam 3 dan 6 bulanan.

Daftar Pustaka - Seminar Leadership Power Character by Dr. Jokoep Ezra, CBA, CPC

The Life of Jesus - Healing the Broken Hearted

http://www.thelifeofjesusseries.info/tloj/healing_the_broken_hearted
By Bruce Mackay

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Many people suffer from a broken heart. This deep grief that crushes our spirit can be caused by many of life’s circumstances. Some reasons may include the death of a loved one, the breakdown of a trusted relationship or the realisation of a foolish action on our part that has caused great grief to others. When we are suffering from a broken heart, we find it difficult to find any consolation, comfort or resolution. Jesus came to heal the broken-hearted. If you find yourself in this situation, then true resolution can be a reality through the Lord Jesus Christ.

The life of Jesus is the fulfillment of many prophecies spoken by holy men of God by the Holy Spirit. The prophet Isaiah said, ‘The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me, because the Lord has anointed Me to preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent me to heal the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound; to proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn’. Jesus stood in His home-town synagogue, read this quote and declared that He was the One the prophet spoke of, and that He had come to ‘heal the broken-hearted’.
A broken-hearted widow

Jesus was a man who did exactly what He said He would do. When He said that He had come to heal the brokenhearted, that is exactly what He did. Jesus and many of His disciples came to a city called Nain. As was common, a large crowd gathered to Him. As they arrived at the gate of the city, a funeral procession was taking place. The dead man was the only son of his mother and she was a widow. The crowd that was proceeding to the burial was overtaken by grief. They cared deeply for the poor woman who had suffered the loss of her husband and now her only son. He was a young man that they all thought had a long life ahead of him.

They found no way to comfort or console her. She was broken-hearted and now she was alone. She could see no hope for the way ahead. A widow in those days was absolutely dependent on her family for food, clothing and housing. Now her only remaining loved one was dead. Her only form of provision was dead. She would have felt that she would be better off dead herself. These are the symptoms of a broken heart. There’s no reason for going on, no purpose for living and absolutely no hope.
Compassion

When the Lord saw this broken-hearted lady, He had compassion for her. Compassion is much more than just sympathy. Compassion involves participation. Jesus loved and cared enough about this woman and her circumstances that He was both willing and able to heal her broken heart. Jesus came to the open coffin and touched it. He spoke to the widow’s dead son saying, ‘Young man I say to you, arise’. Immediately, life came into his dead body causing him to sit up and speak.

Imagine what flowed through the heart of the widow when Jesus presented her son alive to her. Immediately, her broken heart was healed. Her sorrow was turned to joy and her mourning into dancing. The words of Jesus had brought life out of death. In the words of Jesus there is life and there is eternal healing. He has the words of eternal life.

On first reading of this most wonderful event that happened in a Middle Eastern city over two thousand years ago, you could say to yourself, ‘How does that help me? How does that heal my broken heart? My loved one is long dead and buried. Jesus didn’t come and raise them up. I still have a broken heart’. As we look at how Jesus healed the broken heart of the widow, we also can experience His compassion and be healed.

My wife and I have experienced the sorrow and ache of losing a grandson. In this sorrow, we and his parents experienced the comfort that is found from the word of God at our church, through the fellowship of believers in Christ. Instead of broken hearts sorrowing with no hope, we each found the comfort and peace that can only be found in Christ our Lord.
The church - a place of healing

The church is not to be a man-made institution, but the body of Christ. It is to be the gathering of all who have received the life of God through the Lord Jesus Christ, where each member has submitted to Christ as Lord. Each person is no longer living a self-centered life, but is living for the other. It is in this context that the comfort of Christ can come. This is where the word of Christ can come and bring life to our soul. The church is where the Father, Son and Holy Spirit are actively present. As we sorrow, we receive God’s comfort through those who have suffered. And, likewise, we comfort others with the comfort of Christ that we have found through another. We sorrow for the other. This removes self pity and the comfort of Christ abounds.
The comfort of Christ

‘Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our comfort is abundant through Christ.’ 2 Cor 1:3-5.

It is true that our comfort is abundant through Christ. As surely as the widow in the city of Nain received Christ’s comfort, we too can receive His abundant comfort. No one goes through life without experiencing sorrow, suffering or affliction, but our sorrow does not have to be without hope. ‘But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus. Therefore comfort one another with these words.’ 1Thess 4:13-14, 18.
Not time and chance

Many broken-hearted people are always asking ‘why’ or ‘what if’. Jesus taught in His sermons that we don’t have to live by time and chance, hoping to be in the right place at the right time or fearing that we will be at the wrong place at the wrong time. He said that if we turn from living self-centered, self-directed and self-reasoned lives, and live by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God, we will have life and know His peace. Just as His word during the funeral procession in the city of Nain brought life and healing, His word that proceeds to those who gather to eat and drink the communion will bring life and healing to all who have an ear to hear.
Sorrow from sin

We have all done things that we regret. There are times when our actions or words can break the heart of another. Or we realise that what we have said or done has crushed our spirit or the spirit of another. One of Jesus’ disciples, Peter, found himself in this situation. After pledging his devout loyalty to Jesus and his willingness to defend Him at all costs, Peter openly denied Jesus three times. In addition to this, Jesus had warned Peter that this would happen. When Peter realised what he had done, how he had denied and cursed his friend Jesus, he was broken-hearted and crushed. The Bible says that Peter wept bitterly.

If we are ever in this position ourselves, we will find that all of our relationships are affected and our enthusiasm for life is gone. Unless we are restored and healed through the Lord Jesus Christ, Satan gains an advantage and we will find ourselves oppressed and demoralised. At the same time that Peter denied Jesus, another of His disciples, Judas, also betrayed Him. Judas was broken-hearted by his actions. Tragically, Judas never made an attempt to be restored to Jesus and be healed and forgiven. He died full of sorrow and remorse.
Restoration and healing

Peter didn’t immediately go to Jesus for forgiveness. This complicated matters for Peter, because by that same afternoon, Jesus had been crucified. This added to Peter’s broken heart. Three days later, when Mary and other women visited the tomb of Jesus, they found it empty. Christ had risen from the dead! There in the garden, Mary spoke to Jesus. She was told to go to the disciples and Peter and tell them to meet with the resurrected Christ. We note here that Peter was singled out. Jesus was eager to meet Peter and heal his broken heart.

Jesus is eager to meet you and heal your broken heart. Are you willing to be healed?

It would appear that this message of Jesus’ desire to meet Peter brought hope to him. He ran at full speed to the tomb. Over the next forty days, Jesus and Peter spoke together many times.
Forgiveness

Although we don’t have every conversation that Jesus had with Peter recorded, we know through the teachings of Jesus that forgiveness is essential for the restoration of relationships. ‘Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”. Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses”.’ Matt 18:21-22.

The following conversation between Jesus and Peter shows the healing of Peter’s broken heart. The grief and other effects that had been caused by his sins were resolved. This enabled him to be recovered to his pathway, calling and purpose in life. ‘Jesus said to him the third time, “Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?”. Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, “Do you love Me?”. And he said to Him, “Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You”. Jesus said to him, “Feed My sheep. Most assuredly, I say to you, when you were younger, you girded yourself and walked where you wished; but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will gird you and carry you where you do not wish”. This He spoke, signifying by what death he would glorify God. And when He had spoken this, He said to him, “Follow Me”.’ John 21:17-19.

We read of Peter boldly following and declaring the Lord Jesus. This one person who was crushed in spirit had been fully restored and recovered. He now was comforting others and seeing them healed through the word of Christ in the church.

‘Peter, an apostle of Jesus Christ, to the pilgrims of the Dispersion in Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia, and Bithynia, elect according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, in sanctification of the Spirit, for obedience and sprinkling of the blood of Jesus Christ: Grace to you and peace be multiplied. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His abundant mercy has begotten us again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance incorruptible and undefiled and that does not fade away, reserved in heaven for you, who are kept by the power of God through faith for salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ, whom having not seen you love. Though now you do not see Him, yet believing, you rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory, receiving the end of your faith – the salvation of your souls.’ 1 Pet 1:1-9.

May each of us find healing and recovery. We need to submit ourselves to Christ’s Lordship, gathering with others who believe on the Lord Jesus Christ. In this church context, we hear and receive the words of Christ that we may be comforted, healed, forgiven and restored. We likewise can comfort others with the comfort we have received.